keep your friends close but your enemies closer
Published on September 23, 2010 By Anthony R In Blog Communities

One thing I learned quite some time ago, If you come to a public message board and post opinions, those opinions are subject to scrutiny, perhaps even ridicule. So when a person reacts to scrutiny in a poor manner and starts lashing out at people, or threatening a dramatic "goodbye" never to return again, it really reflects poorly on that person, even if the person who initially leveled criticism was out of line.

I always try to be reasonable when my opinions are criticized, for instance, once I saw a guy posting pics of his kid eating tons of Doritos and McDonald's on his blog and I made the mistake of commenting on how unhealthy I though that was... To make a long story short, the guy turned apoplectic and angrily told me not to tell him, "how to raise his kid." I thought he was overreacting, but I soon learned that just about everyone thought I was out of line and shouldn't have interfered. After suffering what seemed like universal condemnation, the correct thing to do was issue an apology and move on... not dig in, so that's exactly what I did.

When some people are scrutinized they dig in and become bitterly angry. Watching someone lash out in anger at everyone at a public message board when they don't get their way, fail to get their point across, or suffer the indignity of being wrong is really not amusing as I once thought.


Comments
on Sep 23, 2010

I can see your point but I don't always tend to back down just because someone or many got offended by what I had to say. In a case such as the dorito and burger incident i would have simply stated if you don't like my opinion too bad but it's in a sense the truth. People are waaaay too sensitive these days to even take constructive criticism and that tends to bug me enough to want to be honest more often even if it bothers them because sometimes people simply need to be told the truth even if it bothers them.

Of course there are times when "digging in" is pointless or worthless and then you simply walk away from that argument and move on. of course this is just my way of seeing things and may not agree with everyone else's way of handling these situations.

on Sep 24, 2010

I see by the time we were posting at the same time.

We are often told of the difference between man and other animals.  Of course the critical one is our intelligence and reasoning power.  When people lash out like that, they have basically reverted to animal instincts and put all intelligence on the back burner.

You see that often on places like du.org.

on Sep 24, 2010

In a case such as the dorito and burger incident i would have simply stated if you don't like my opinion too bad but it's in a sense the truth.

Yeah, but lots of people seemed to hold the belief that I shouldn't have interfered with how a parent raises a child...  I learned from it, apologized to the guy and moved on.  

on Sep 24, 2010

 

When people lash out like that, they have basically reverted to animal instincts and put all intelligence on the back burner.

Don't look now Doc

on Sep 24, 2010

Anthony R
 
When people lash out like that, they have basically reverted to animal instincts and put all intelligence on the back burner.
Don't look now Doc

Yea, but then who are you going to believe?  A proven liar?  Some still think that Clinton "did not have sexual relations with that woman", so you can fool some of the people all of the time.